Often people get stuck in patterns when it comes to these cycles, and this can cause problems with those around them. You don’t need to suffer, if you have tried everything and they just don’t want to stop their addictions or you are in a bad relationship there are things you can do.
When you make the decision to detach you need to follow through. This does not mean that you don’t love them, it just means you cant take their problems anymore or have the constant struggles that go with it. Detaching with love means that you can live a healthy life and your loved one might see that they need to change and might seek help.
Co-dependency is a problem that a lot of people in these situations face. The loved one does not operate unless you are there doing everything for them, and this can be tiring and destructive to you. Enabler means that you allow something to go on or in certain terms you can even get the object of the addiction for the person using them, and this can be a problem because you are actually helping them cause the problem.
There are several ways you can detach from someone with these problems if you want to. Some of the ways are:
2. Think about what in the relationship you don’t want to let go and why you cannot detach.
3. Admit that there is a problem and the person who is harming you or others has a real problem and refuses to seek help.
4. Stop thinking that they will change, if you are enabling them then it definitely won’t change.
5. Let go of the emotional hooks that are keeping you there.
6. Affirm yourself that you are a person to and you are not getting what you need out of this relationship. You have needs also and they should not be ignored either.
7. Start to heal yourself from the relationship.
Detaching from situations like this does not mean that you don’t love the person or that you don’t care, it just means that you are not qualified to help the person in whatever means they need. This is not a problem that you need to combat and in all honesty you shouldn’t. You are a person to and you can get help for the loved one that is stuck in this problem.
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